The 4 Deadly Mistakes of Wife Seduction

When a guy gets turned down over and over again (during the seduction process) in his relationship with his wife (or girlfriend) he often attempts to make adjustments. You are about to learn the 4 deadly mistakes guys make when attempting to correct the problem with their "not in the mood" female partner.

Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 1

Trying to learn how to be an awesome lover. I'm referring to becoming better in bed. This may shock the hell out of you, but I'll explain. Here is what the guy thinks:

The wrong approach: He thinks that if he becomes so good in bed, his wife will want to keep coming back for more.

Here is why the thinking is flawed. The guy thinks if he puts on a world class performance she will want it all the time. It doesn't matter how good you are in bed if you are a lousy sexual salesmen she will not buy into your offer. There is a such thing as poor salesmanship. A poor salesman couldn't sell hundred dollar bills for 50 cents.

Trust me, I've seen poor salesman in action. And many cases they will talk themselves out of the sale. They end up convincing the person not to buy. Keep this in mind: SEX is the product and SEDUCTION (or the word I like to use is SEXUALLY INSPIRE) is the process of selling the product. I'll give you another example.

I could be thinking about eating a bacon cheeseburger from a certain fast food restaurant. I know it tastes great because I had it before, but I'm not inspired to eat it.

But when I see the commercial (which seduces me), I suddenly have a strong urge to have it - and as a result I will hop in my car and drive out there to get it.

So it wouldn't matter too much if they kept trying to make the burger better and better and better. So that is the mistake that guys make. They try to improve the product (i.e sex or the burger), but NOT the more important selling process. If you have little sexual value it will be hard enough to get her to agree to have sex.

But what you do technically will not matter as much. If a woman can cum from thought a lone, then that must mean the mental side of things is very important.

Have you ever been caressing a woman and suddenly she begins to orgasm? I remember one time being alone with a female and things were getting hot and steamy. We still had our clothes on. I began rubbing her all over while kissing her. I stopped kissing her and just focused on rubbing her ? in a matter of seconds she begins to orgasm.

If you get a woman really turned on, this can happen. It depends on the woman and how your sexual value. My point is it wasn't the fact that she was being rubbed that resulted in her cumming. It was the fact that she was being rubbed by someone with sexual value.

So when guys try to learn how to be better in bed, they are not considering the most important part ? and that is increasing their sexual value.

The right approach: 1 You must increase your sexual value 2 You must focus on selling (seduction) instead of improving the product (getting better at sex)

Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 2

The wrong approach: Focusing on how you should approach her. Here is why the thinking is flawed.

The guy thinks that he has to approach her a certain way and then she will accept him. He is partially right. But the fact that he focuses all of his mental energy on figuring out what the right approach is instead of working on increasing his sexual value makes him completely wrong.

If you have little sexual value it doesn't matter how you approach her. That's like saying:

What would a 900lb woman have to do to get you in the mood?

If she has no sexual to you, then the answer is nothing. Imagine if you saw her obsessing over how to approach you for sex. That is actually the perfect analogy because guys are more physically turned on and women are more psychologically turned on.

Wouldn't you agree that in order for her acceptance rate to increase her sexual value would have to increase. (i.e lose weight or something).

The right approach: 1 You must increase your sexual value.

Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 3

The wrong approach: Trying to give her pills/herbs to make her horny. Here is why the thinking is flawed.

You can read a similar analogy on superhappysex.com (scroll down to the first Yellow Box)

If you have no sexual value then it doesn't matter if the pills succeed in getting her horny. This actually could work against you in some cases. Here's the deal, if she gets horny and you have no sexual value, then she would rather masturbate than to have sex with you.

And the reason why it could work against you over the long run is because if she is always in a horny state then the guys that have sexual value in her eyes are the ones that are going to be more appealing - over time.

Does that make sense?

Let's say we lived in a world where a pig could talk and interact with you, but they still had the sexual value of a regular pig. By the way: This analogy was nominated for the Bizarre Analogy Award. (that's a joke)

Let's say this pig gave you (secretly or non-secretly) 2 pills of HERBAL-X ROCK HARD. These pills had 90000 mg of Yohimbe and 90000 mg of Ginseng, and any herb you can think of it had 90000 mgs of it (and miraculously your heart didn't explode!)..in seconds your member was up in the air! (approx 5 degrees away from your belly).

Would you screw the pig if you became super aroused? The answer is no. (right?) The pig has no sexual value. So in order for you to screw the pig, it would have to increase his sexual value. It would have to maybe put on some fishnet stockings (or shed that nasty gut).

The right approach: 1 You must increase your sexual value.

Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 4

The wrong approach: Asking her to explain why she is not in the mood? Here is why the thinking is flawed.

The guy thinks his wife will tell him why she isn't sexually attracted to him (anymore). And then all he has to is make the changes, and then presto!

The problem is she doesn't know. She knows what she is consciously attracted to (i.e the nice guy that does nice things ? i.e her husband or the man she loves) but she doesn't know what she is unconsciously attracted to.

[By the way ? Any guy that has read superlustbuttons.com knows what I mean. When you read that, you are going to beg me to take the site down so that other guys don't use that secret system]

The mechanisms that inspire horniness is foreign to her. She doesn't know what moves her on a deep down level. Here's an example. If you asked a person that just gave up on diet why he is no longer on the diet, he is not going to give you the real (deep down) answer.

However, he will give you the false (surface ? or what he thinks) answer and he may believe this is the truth but it's not the truth.

It's false.

His surface answer will be that the diet failed, or that it was a dumb diet - something like that. But the real (deep down) reason is because he may have never believed he could succeed in the first place.

He may have had no hope. He may have to increase his will-power. He may not have been serious about solving his problem.

The right approach: You must increase your sexual value. She responds unconsciously to things that she is not aware of.

Warmly,
CR James

Author of Super Sex Power: Magnetism
SuperHappySex.com

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CR James is the author of the new seduction book Super Sex Power. The first seduction book designed to increase your sexual value fast, because it features perception-driven seduction techniques. You can get a FREE seduction report for a limited time by clicking this link: http://superhappysex.com/limited-time

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