How Love Dies: Spot the Symptoms Now, and Get Your Love Back on Track

Are you starting to feel that your man has changed so much, in a negative way, that your relationship is starting to die a slow death? In this article I will shed some light on the kinds of things men do when they want to extinguish the flame that sizzles their love. I will also give you some some ideas on how you can reignite the fire in your relationship.

Here are some to the signs to look out for: His love for you is losing its life-blood, if you find that, most of the time, he behaves in the following ways:

1. He no longer makes time to spend with you on a weekly basis.

2. He prefers to go out with his friends than take you out.

3. He is easily annoyed by things that never bothered him in the past.

4. He finds it difficult to tell you he loves you.

5. He constantly talks about how fat you are.

6. He talks down to you.

7. He has started being dissatisfied with things you do for him.

8. He prefers to work extra hours so he will have less time to spend with you.

9. He has stopped doing you any favors.

10. He has told you that perhaps both of you should slow things down a bit.

11. He encourages you to go out and have fun without him.

12. He forgets your birthdays or anniversaries and makes no effort to buy you gifts.

13. He laughs out loud when he talks to his friends or family members, and never laughs out loud with you.

14. He flirts openly with other women in your presence.

15. He has started comparing you to other women in terms of how you should look or behave.

16. He doesn't really care about sleeping with you in the same bed.

17. He seems to have lost interest in making love with you.

18. You are starting to find telephone numbers of other women in his wallet or clothes. 19.He has started staying out overnight when he goes out on weekends.

20. He has started lying about where he has been and who he's been with.

Bear in mind that your relationship is not necessarily dying, if your guy does just one of these things just once. However, if he indulges in any of these behaviors frequently over time, then you have cause to worry. What's most important is how your guy reacts when you bring this behavior to his attention. Does he apologize and promise to make a change, or does he just not care about your feelings? If he apologizes and seems to show some remorse, then you know you have a good chance at resurrecting your love again, and here are some things you can do:

Start with yourself. Start doing those things that show that you can still go on even if he decides to leave.

·Get in shape ? It is possible that your mate's comments about your weight gain could actually be true.

·Make sure you always look your best - Do your hair and nails, and be sure to put your make up on.

·Read books that will boost your self-esteem and self-image.

·Start doing things with your friends and family members. When your man sees that you are not sitting home pouting, and that you are actually going out and having fun, he realizes that he is not necessarily the only thing going on in your life.

·Have a talk with him about how he has changed and how that change has impacted your relationship. Your goal here is to find out what exactly is bugging him, and once you do, you are now equipped with what the problem is and you are able to map out some solutions.

·Indulge in a romantic candlelight dinner for two at home.

·Take an overnight trip out of town, and be sure to stay in a good hotel. Go see some sights together, and take some pictures.

·Take a cruise to an exotic place ? the islands or wherever you've both been dying to see.

·If your efforts don't seem to be changing things, ask your mate if he is open to seeing a relationship counselor.

If all else fails and your guy is hell-bent on letting his love for you slip away, at least you weren't sitting around doing nothing. You were taking care of yourself and improving your self-esteem, having fun with your friends and these are things that men find attractive in a woman. Good luck.

To find out how to make your man desire you like he has never desired any woman, please visit http://www.smartwomansguide.com.

Steve Ubah is the author of Passion Keys ? A Woman's Ultimate Guide To Unlocking The Love In A Man's Heart. To find out how you can make your man fall madly in love with you, please visit http://www.smartwomansguide.com

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