Relationship Advice for Women - Beyond the Happy Ending - Part 3 - The Jealousy Syndrome

Jealousy, unfortunately it seems to pop up sometime in even the happiest relationships. Jealousy can happen to anyone, male or female, young or old. Sometimes it is justified; sometimes it's about things imagined. Either way, it is an ugly, unwanted feeling. In talking to women, I have found a few common sources of jealousy that we as the female species seem to feel. All of these do not apply to all women, but this is a general consensus.

Our man looking at a woman we consider pretty.

Our man having any association with porn, be it a magazine or movie.

A pretty woman where he works that seems to show him a lot of attention.

A pretty woman at work that he has made friends with.

He ogles some pretty actress in a movie you're watching.

Ladies, if you think about each one of these, what is the core of the problem? If we are honest, the answer is us. The common factor in each of the above is that it makes us feel we are not pretty enough, or that he finds someone else more attractive than you. Perhaps, he even wants someone else more than you but he is settling. There may be times when you should be jealous, but in the majority of these cases, it's unjustified and here is why. I asked men about these very same things. Here is what the majority of them had to say.

I'm in love with my girlfriend/wife, but I do still notice other attractive women. I'm not comparing her to the woman I'm with because there is no comparison. I love one; I only notice the other one.

Porn is about sex. It doesn't make me wish I had another woman; it just makes me think about sex. Sometimes I watch movies to see if I can learn new things or get ideas of things to do with my woman.

I'm flattered when a woman at work pays attention to me. It doesn't mean I want her, I just like feeling attractive.

When you work with people, friendship happens, male or female. If I'm really in love with my partner, that's all it ever will be is a friendship. It's frustrating when she constantly gets upset about it.

Pretty much the same responses that were given in number one except men find this one silly. There is no way they could cheat on you with her so what's the big deal.

Ladies, this tells us that we worry way too much. Men who are in love place you separate from other women. They may notice other women, even find them attractive, but in general, they are happy being with the woman they are in love with.

©2005 Patricia Fason

Patricia Fason is a writer and poet. She is listed as an ezine articles expert author, a buzzle author and has provided articles exclusively to websites and ezines. Contact her for information on exclusive articles or visit her website dedicated to romance - Sites O Web Romances You. There you will find romance tips, poetry, free greeting cards, romantic gifts and more.

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