If You Love Me

If you love me, you will keep my commandments?

In the love games we play, and in all aspects of human endeavors, maintaining positive relations with each other is a must, to live in harmony and peaceful coexistence with each other.

The surest path to keeping good relations with our fellow humans is to know what their dos and don'ts are, and adhere strictly to the same. An infringement of the don'ts should be followed by a sincere apology. A blatant refusal to acknowledge our basic differences, thereby stepping on each other's toes, is indicative of a lack of respect and by extrapolation, lack of love.

True love is only found and kept, when both parties realize that they have been born and bred in totally different environments and make accommodations to show tolerance and an understanding/acceptance of each others different proclivities.

Naturally, they must have lots in common in the first place, to agree to go together. Even twins born of the same mother and out of the same womb, with lots in common, have a few grey areas they don't much see eye to eye on; how much less two complete strangers who are in love?

Parents, who enforce rules, in love for their growing kids, expect those kids to obey the rules, or else; similarly, when dealing with adults, mutual respect and admiration can only be realized, when the two parties respect the commandments of each other. Since they must have very similar likes in the first instance, to be able to go together, recognizing the grey areas and communicating these effectively, early on in the relationship will guide that true love is found. Adherence or not to this will be a red flag, which may point to chauvinism.

In future articles, I will dwell on the differences between love and being in love and testing for true love; core areas which are often confusing in the complex mix of male-female relations.

Knowledge is NOT power; it is only empowering?.The Application of Knowledge IS power.

About The Author

Christopher Adeyemi Adetosoye is author of A Man's Guide to Finding True Love and A Woman's Guide to Finding True Love, E-books, which are currently available at http://www.trueloveguide.com; adeyemi@trueloveguide.com

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