Why Its Important to Stay in Contact with Your Friends when Youre in a Relationship

So often when we begin to enter into a new relationship, it is very easy to get swept up by the romance, and leave behind our friends. With the wonderful bliss that you feel when you enter into a relationship it's easy to understand why we forget our friends and our everyday relationships. Is this the best way to handle a new relationship? Most likely not, sometimes in the tidal wave rush of new love we get swept away, and can forget the ties, and our desires that make us the special people we are.

Have you ever noticed that in some new relationships that you get simply swept off your feet and right into a new lifestyle? It is so easy to get totally swept into different social circles, or perhaps you begin to modify your own social circle to better please your new partner. While this is an exciting time, it's great to have close friends who can keep an eye on you, and make sure you are doing well. Sometimes we begin to modify our personality to better please our new partner. We may take on different likes and dislikes, which may be so different than what we enjoyed before.

It is important to maintain your own identity in a new relationship, because while you may be part of a couple, you want the ability to stand on your own two feet. For example if you really enjoy painting you shouldn't have to give that up to be in a new relationship if your new partner doesn't enjoy painting. Your strong likes and dislikes should be able to come into play in a new relationship. You shouldn't have to stifle you favorite interests. Your friends can help you keep a checks and balances going, so you know you're engaging into a healthy relationship.

In addition that your friends have been your basic support system before your new relationship, you are also their support system. While it can be understandable you want to spend time with your new special person, your friends were there for you before your special person was in your life. There can be hurt feelings on their side by your sudden disappearance. So keep their feelings in mind when you meet your new special person. So you do not loose their friendships.

Good quality friendships provide support, fellowship, and feedback. All of those are wonderful tools when you enter new relationships simply because they can be rulers for how well a relationship is going. When you lose yourself into a new relationship you aren't always benefiting yourself. Often when the newness of a relationship wears off and when you want to reconnect with your old friends, you want to make sure you haven't alienated them, and that they are still there with their support, fellowship, and feedback.

Stephanie Manley is the editor for http://www.copykat.com. She also writes articles about relationships at http://romancelessons.blogspot.com

In The News:


pen paper and inkwell


cat break through


The Breakdown of Relationships and Why They Fail

All females need sexual tension from a prospective or existing... Read More

Commonsense Approach to Domestic Violence

Domestic violence the catch phrase for the past ten years.... Read More

To Hold or to Set One Free!

Hope you all are doing well and enjoying great health.... Read More

How To Change A Loved Ones Annoying Habits

Is there someone close to you who has an annoying... Read More

The Evolution of Dating at 40 and 50

I am sick of the dating scene at 40. The... Read More

Your Beloved Soldier Is Coming Home ? Now What?

Your Beloved Soldier Is Coming Home ? Now What?Laura anxiously... Read More

You Dont Have to Break Down, When You Break Up!

Very few people would argue with the fact that creating... Read More

Taking the True Relationship Test

If you have ever read teen magazines you will be... Read More

Zodiac Love Match ? Can the Stars be Right?

As a somewhat older gentleman (but still fairly good looking... Read More

Buying Underwear For The Woman In Your Life - The Golden Rules

There are two golden rules for choosing underwear for the... Read More

Living in Fear!

As we are aware, our relationships are that bigger part... Read More

The 100 Laws

In any group of abused women there's almost always at... Read More

Fight, Flight, or Loving Action

Fight or flight - our automatic response to danger. When... Read More

Dont Be A Doormat in Your Relationship

There comes a point in every relationship when the person... Read More

Passion or Purpose?

I hate moderation. I hate doing things moderately. I hate... Read More

Too Many Cooks in the Kitchen After Wife Gets MBA

"Hesh, where is your business plan?" It was a question... Read More

Great Relationships: What to Do When You Have Drifted Apart

Picture, if you will, the following scene:A man and woman,... Read More

The Power of Authenticity

How "powerful" are you?Do you ever cover up how you... Read More

Are You Codependent or Independent?

Why is it that depending on others to fulfill our... Read More

How to Ease the Pain of a Breakup

Whether you do the dumping or you are the one... Read More

Support for Non-ADD Spouses and Partners

Living with adult ADD can be quite a challenge. Not... Read More

7 Power Skills that Build Strong Relationships

A strong, healthy relationship is one in which the partners... Read More

How Can I Get My Partner To Change?

How much energy do you spend trying to get what... Read More

The Lies That Saved a Judges Life

What is empathy? Many people confuse empathy with sympathy, but... Read More

8 Ways to Improve Your Long Distance Relationship

Couples in love may often find themselves having to live... Read More

Happily Ever After/Real Love

I was 43 years old and still looking for love.... Read More

The Evolution of Love

Songs have been saying it for generations together. Ask anyone... Read More

Playing the Part

A revelation came to me at the most unsuspecting time.... Read More

Its Your Fault I Had An Affair!

When you read it like that, out of context, you'd... Read More

Are You Fit To Love?

is the most important question you'll ever ask yourself. Let's... Read More

How To Develop A Grateful Mind

There is one sure fire medicine that cures all difficulty... Read More

Relationship Advice for Women - Beyond the Happy Ending - Part 1 The Nothing Syndrome

We've all heard the stories. The princess finds her prince... Read More

Should I Give Up Me To Not Lose You?

How far can you afford to bend your values to... Read More