To Cheat or Not To Cheat

You know I am getting fed up with people who cheat. That seems to be the norm these days. I am having a hard time trusting right now. My friends are getting cheated on and I have recently been the victim of it myself. People who cheat really hit a nerve with me. Why can you not just be honest? I mean are you afraid someone is going to be upset if you don't want to see them anymore? Well how the hell do you think they are gonna feel when they catch you cheating?? How are YOU going to feel then?

The guy I was seeing got off a little easy in my opinion. Now I have forgiven him, but I no longer see him either. And trust me I have not forgotten. I hate seeing anyone hurt, especially my friends. I will include myself in on that too though. I have been asked out by two very married men lately, and what gets me is they know that I know they are married. That is an insult to me. That they would think I would go for that blows my mind. Because I am not like that and I would never lower myself to do that, sorry!

This one guy asked me out and I asked him up front, are you married and are you seeing anyone else right now? The answer was no and no. I had my suspicions, he never wore a wedding ring thought so I agreed. I went out with him once and only once. Because he couldn't keep his hands to himself and I knew what he was after. Getting smarter the older I get. One week later, after that date I found out he was very married and had two kids! I found out from no other than his babysitter. He didn't know I knew her, and now who feels like an idiot and a jerk?

It isn't just men either, women cheat a lot also. I will not chase another woman's man or husband. I have never done that. I don't believe in it. I would like to think no woman would do that especially since it is done to us so much, but guess again. That really irks me too, if I don't do it, I expect the same respect. It seems to me that younger women do this because they get a little kick out of it, if the men take the bait they are just as bad. I have had some friends of mine set their men up just to see if they would fall for it, and usually guess what? They do.

I just don't understand why you can't be honest about your feelings. If you don't want to see that person anymore than just tell them. If you want to see them and see other people too be honest and let them know you don't want to be serious with one person. That way they can decide if they want to stay involved or not. It really isn't fair to the other person for them not to know what is really going on. Yes if your honest they may decide to not see you anymore but if your honest they may change their mind later on down the road. Don't cause somebody to have trust issues because you can't be honest. If you lie and they find out, more than likely your done and over with, and you deserve what you get.

I detest being lied to and played, you get one chance with me. Cheating becomes a vicious cycle. You play then they play, then that person plays, around and around we go. It will come back on you what goes around comes around. It is wrong and we all need to stop doing it. We need to look out for each other. Just consider what I am saying.

Take care and God Bless,

Vaughn Pascal

To Dakota: I love you.

Hi, My name is Vaughn Pascal. I am a 31 Yr old, single, parent of a beautiful son. Most of my articles are opinion based and as you can see I do have alot of opinions. My articles are a look into my life and life in general, reading them will allow you to get to know me and my friends and family and the daily struggles we all deal with, thanks for reading me!

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