Coaching: The Art of Putting Yourself In Somone Elses Shoes

COACHING STEPS: The following are five (5) steps a coach can take to change behavior and performance. The goal of this process is to create the context for the person being coached towards one in which excellence becomes the norm. 1. Observe the action/behavior you want to change. 2. Describe the situation/action you saw. 3. Ask the employees what they saw, their perspective/point of view. 4. Tell the person how you saw the behavior, then 5. Describe what needs to happen instead and why - if appropriate.

A GOOD COACH: -- Communicates regularly/frequently. -- Is direct and honest. --Accepts people where they are and goes from there!

ABOUT COACHING: What's exciting about the possibility coaching presents is that it continually demands from you the commitment to perform beyond the levels you've reached in the past. It demands the willingness to treat each situation as brand new and to treat people with compassion. Above all, being a great coach demands that you be coachable yourself. Your coach could be anyone, and to the extent that you let people coach you, your own coaching will be empowered.

BEING A GREAT COACH: -- Coaching is the art/skill of putting yourself in the other person's shoes; imagining yourself in the situation, and asking yourself what your interpretation would be. -- Coaching means being straight with people and accepting people as they are. -- A good coach relates to people as the people they can be, not as the mistakes they made in the past. -- Good coaching practices will provide an example for others and set the tone for better communication in the workplace. Keep your mind open to new suggestions and give your employees room and encouragement to participate more fully, and productivity and well as morale will be changed.

LEARN FROM YOUR EXPERIENCE: You can look at a project you've completed as a success or a failure. Either way, it's the same project. But the context you hold it in can empower you or dis-empower you when you do your next project. It is said that Thomas Edison invented the storage battery only after thousands of tries. By thinking of each unsuccessful try as a step along the way to eventual success by holding each unsuccessful attempt in the "context of success," he was able to keep working until he finally succeeded.

Copyright AE Schwartz & Associates All rights reserved. For additional presentation materials and resources: ReadySetPresent and for a Free listing as a Trainer, Consultant, Speaker, Vendor/Organization: TrainingConsortium

CEO, A.E. Schwartz & Associates, Boston, MA., a comprehensive organization which offers over 40 skills based management training programs. Mr. Schwartz conducts over 150 programs annually for clients in industry, research, technology, government, Fortune 100/500 companies, and nonprofit organizations worldwide. He is often found at conferences as a key note presenter and/or facilitator. His style is fast-paced, participatory, practical, and humorous. He has authored over 65 books and products, and taught/lectured at over a dozen colleges and universities throughout the United States.

---

Why a Self Help Book May Not Help You

For a self help book to work, we have to... Read More

Simple Tips to Move Forward on the Job

Someone I know wants to move into another job in... Read More

The Power of Effective Coaching Skills

The most valuable assets of a 20th century company were... Read More

Crisis: Danger or Opportunity?

I have often heard motivational speakers say that the word... Read More

The Self Development Tool Box

Do you have a self-development toolbox? Do you have a... Read More

Attitude

What makes attitude so important? Why not just learn some... Read More

Its Game Time! Four Powerful Lessons in the Game of Life

I turned 29 last week, and if statistics are right... Read More

We Are Exactly Where We Choose to Be

The idea for this month's newsletter came from an unlikely... Read More

Tripping On Mindfulness

One of the ironies of mindfulness is that it's still... Read More

The Long Way

I wrote you about four years ago, when my eight... Read More

The Pitfalls of Procrastination

We all put off making decisions and taking action sometimes... Read More

Action NOT Reaction

Do you feel you are in charge of your life... Read More

How to Tune In Your Brain & Feel Confident with People in Moments

One day when I was in school, many years ago,... Read More

Unhook From The Perpetual Progress Grid

I have been a member of a group called the... Read More

Permission To Have FUN

? Have you been working long hours? ? Have... Read More

The Art of Change

We don't change. I imagine such a statement could find... Read More

Mentors and Coaches: How to Find a Great Mentor

A career coach or mentor is a person who can... Read More

Flying in the Slow Lane

Dogs distrust hot air balloons. I gathered this tidbit as... Read More

How Can Sceptics Get the Proof They Need

Are you one of those folks that needs to figure-it-out... Read More

Addiction to Blame

Allen consulted with me because his wife of 18 years... Read More

Leadership Coaching at Gettysburg

The battle at Gettysburg is one of the most notable... Read More

Personal Development Profiles

Personal development profiles, also known as personality profiles, are a... Read More

Beware of Psychic Vampires

I am often asked how I stay happy and motivated... Read More

More Money & Less Stress?

At 2pm last Wednesday, I got a call from one... Read More

How to Deal Effectively with Anxiety

Every human feels anxiety on occasion; it is a part... Read More

101 Winning Choices

Personal missions statements (PMS) are just nothing but the winning... Read More

Are YOU a Dreamer?

This morning I watched a news article about a young... Read More

The Great Marketing Reframe

From grimaces to stomach knots, talking about marketing seems to... Read More

What in the World is Life Coaching?

In my speaking engagements I have often compared coaching today... Read More

Training is Not the Same Thing as Exercising

What it takes to GROW!In almost every workshop we deliver,... Read More

Key Questions for a Coaching Conversation

There are 2 key skills that coaches need to be... Read More

Bringing Forgiveness Down To Earth

What does it mean to forgive?One of the first things... Read More

Diverse Marketing Strategies for Those Living with Disabilities

Imagine yourself as the only means of financially supporting you.... Read More