My Concept

From my own personal experiences with relationships I believe in a concept that I have been working with, at least in my mind's eye, which is to give generously of yourself in your relationship. Always do what you can for your partner to make him or her happy, regardless if they invest in you. I call my concept "The Concept of 100%". As a result of this I was happy, and never felt bad when I had to separate myself from a relationship. I believe that when you invest your 100% percent's worth, you never gets hurt, or at least not to the same extent as when someone didn't. The question will always come to mind "What if I had invested more into the relationship?". I do not like this statement and have always tried to avoid it. This concept came to my rescue. I grew to be a better person from my experiences. I don't regret a thing.

You may be wondering where this concept came from? The concept is basically founded on my understanding of how any link between two people has to come from the soul for them to experience true love. One of the reasons that we stop loving someone is when that energy stops flowing in between them. We seem to underestimate our Soul for this very reason, as some of us do not recognize its existence. We allowed, through the years, the surface things to take the best part out of us. Why is this?

Well I still believe in my "The Concept of 100%", but now I am working on a modified version of it. I'm allowed to do what I want to it ? after all it is my concept isn't it? 

I realized recently that I was happy providing all the necessary tools or support, or whatever we want to call it, to my ex-girlfriends but somehow I never (or perhaps rarely) allowed any of them to give me anything in return. "The Concept of 100%" is based on an exchange of energies between two people. This is in order to make a better link between both souls in the process. For any relationship to last, or to be strong and beneficial, it requires a link from the souls for it to survive. Otherwise our relationships always will stay at a surface level. By not allowing anything in return, I was cutting that link in my own way. Wow! That was a very important realization. I was able to have this realization when I met someone who tried to understand or understood my concept. Now, I'm in a way contradicting my own concept, but the question is why? Now half of the problem can be resolved by admitting that there is a loophole in my concept 

Having a computer science background allowed me to realize that no software is perfect and that modification and implementation is required in order for it to work. I did not have a problem with my own contradiction because I believe we are not perfect beings regardless of how small or big we are (or think we are). You see we do program ourselves and we should always pay attention to what we do, or say, and listen to what we keep repeating to our subconscious.

Because it is in my interest to fix the problem (and the sooner the better) I came to realize later on, after seriously going deeper into myself, that there lay in me a hidden fear. It was a deep fear of commitment, and me not wanting to get stuck for the rest of my life with the wrong person. As a result I would not have been able to do the things I was suppose to do in this lifetime. That said it all, didn't it!!!

At that time, I had no clue what I wanted in my life. I had a mild sense of direction, but then again I was only 19 years old. The only thing I can remember was that I couldn't settle down and have any kids at that early stage of my life. I accepted the fact by giving of myself, to make the other person happy, but never allowed, if only partially, the other person to share their love with me. Now comes the time of de-programming or deleting that file in my subconscious. That should not be a problem, as long as you realize that the problem is self-inflicted. I believe in my concept. What I did was, like when you write a business contract, leave a clause in allowing for your escape (or an out). That's exactly what happens!

How many of us have programmed ourselves into doing things, or running away from things, in order not to get hurt, to become vulnerable, or even to be happy? Why do we do this? God only knows. We do things as a human race to limit ourselves, and keep ourselves down in order not to get hurt. And really, for what, and at what expense, if you come to think of it? Having a hidden program is your biggest misfortune of all.

Well after this amazing realization, I will continue to work on my "The Concept of 100%" with a new upgraded version 2.0 with the place and space of improvement added to it. Just invoke your soul for some extra investment power in your next relationship. You are the winner after all!

Copyright © Joseph Ghabi http://www.freespiritcentre.info

About the Author:

Joseph Ghabi is an author, lecturer, and healer. Joseph provides Intuitive Numerology Consultation, Healing Childhood Experiences Consultation and PhD Candidate living in Montreal Canada.

At the age of eight Joseph discovered his clairvoyance. Joseph is natural medium. Joseph started the 'Free Spirit Centre' website at http://www.freespiritcentre.info - A community centre devoted to personal growth, self help, soul growth, eating disorders, relationships, healing and human issues. You can find over 800 articles on the site.

Joseph task is in bringing Souls back to realization of their own personal power and into alignment with their own soul purpose and path of evolution.

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