Bad Company

Here we will come to know who are the most responsible person to make your child an addicted person & failure.

In general we see kids who are addicted of tobacco , drinking, smoking, etc. addictions are the symbols of unhealthy personality.

Kids adopts addictions because of a] Stress, B] Depression. C] repression. (form anything) When a kid feels one of these or similar of these he wants to come out form the situations. In many countries ? drinking and smoking are the accepted norms of getting happiness.

At first when a kid smoke or drink - he does not get any pleasant experience / relief / happiness. But peoples around him makes him feel so. Over a period of a time he develops & adopts the habit / addiction.

In a survey it is found that kids gives similar expressions on the question "why you smoke / drink etc.?" or "what and how you feel after / while drinking or smoking ? "

These expressions are a] I get mental peace, b] I feel more confident and aggressive, c] it is good for my tummy & helps in latrine, d] It is full of pride & sign of growing man e] it removes the loneliness, anger, depression. But this is all away form fact & just a self-deceit.

In the parental aspect when the parents came to know about their kid's addictions / bad habits ; the (99.9% normal reaction ) parents says " (1) He has bad Company", "(2)He has bad friends" etc. But in reality it fiction and fact is different. Yes, Fact is different.

Form the beginning / since your child born he has only company and that is you, The parent. He / she got your company for very first day.

Not getting the good company form parents is the main reason to raise new problems in the life of a kid.

Confidence and every thing which requires in social life : he gets it form the home (your company).

But what Exactly happens by which they get mentally imbalanced & cause addiction / bad habits ? well, the reasons are.

  • being our self (parents) indiscipline & teaching / imposing discipline to kids

  • Pressure to follow the rules, and discouragement.

  • Our self (parents) addicted and not giving sufficient time to the kids

  • Not allowing kids to express emotions & needs. Not understanding the kids

  • Not giving love & affection at the expectation level of kids

  • Improper / Imbalanced mutual understanding and difference of opinion among parents.

  • Economical problems in family and divorce.

    These are the main reasons by which kids gets influenced and affected.

    By the nature of law everybody wants to forget the bad / troubling events in life and to get relief kids do addiction just to get so called happiness and he develops inferiority complex that he has chance to get happy form addiction(s) (which he never gets).

    To do addictions he requires money and to earn / grab that money he creates more problems.

    Basically in these kids ? confidence level gets low and low, reduces the success rate, develops the negative thoughts and bad results are keep on growing.

    Any one can predict the future of such kids( and you also know the beginning point).

    Getting escape form addiction is very hard thing, easy thing is to prevent them form addiction before they starts.

    We bring them on the earth so its only parents responsibility & duty to make child successful by providing right mind & body needs.

    Just like a kite, a thread helps kite to reach top most place in the sky ; Similarly we are (thread) in parent-child relationship. What if you loose / cut the thread?? ?

    We have no rights to raise question and to say my son / daughter has bad company.

    Copyrights : © Nilesh B Gore.

    About The Author

    Name : Nilesh B Gore

    Profession : Graphologist(Hndwriting Analyst) & SW. Eng.

    Email : ng411002@rediffmail.com

    Web : http://www.brendynamics.com/hw.htm

    Country : India, Ms

    Author has written for the leading newspaper (Sakal) in India - Ms

    and his articles had been published in number of websites.

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