Anchor Your Relationships

I heard a speaker recently who was talking about how to maintain strong relationships. As I listened to his basic principle, I realized that it is true in all of our life situations, be it work, family etc. And let's face it, relationships are what make the world go 'round. So strong healthy relationships will make your work more enjoyable, and prosperous, and will make your family and friend relationships better as well.

What was the principle? The speaker said that each point of connection is like an anchor in the relationship, and the more connections you have, the stronger the relationship will be. He calls one-connection relationships "Simplex," and multi-connection relationships, "Multiplex." The strongest relationships are multiplex.

There is also the idea that some connections are stronger than others and so you want as many connections as possible and you want those connections to be as strong as they can be as well. Confused? Let's put some legs on this. We'll take a business situation and we'll take a family situation to illustrate the principle.

Anchoring work relationships. Let's say you sell insurance. A guy walks in and says, "I would like to purchase some term life insurance." You have a simplex relationship. The connection is that you both want him to have insurance. As you get to know him better and get information from him, you realize that you have a multiplex relationship growing and the chance that your business relationship will grow is improving.

"You grew up in Iowa? Me too!"

"You like to golf? Me too!"

"Your wife and you like to go to the opera? So do we! We should go together sometime."

The multiple connections are anchoring your relationship.

Anchoring a family relationship. Let's take a marriage in trouble. Chances are that at one time, the relationship was multiplex. Because of time, work, and other stresses, the marriage has deteriorated to the point where both are thinking, "What did I marry this person for?" Or "Why do I stay?" The chances are that now the relationship is simplex. Maybe it is that the one connection is that they want to do right by the kids and so they "Tough it out." What is the answer? I believe that it is regaining a multiplex relationship. Work hard to make those other anchoring connections. Did you used to play tennis together before the kids came along? Go play tennis together on a regular basis. Do you both have a common interest in a specific cause or charity, but time hasn't allowed you to pursue it? Take the time! It will anchor your relationship again!

I think you get the point. Take some time to think about your current relationships. Are they as multiplex as they can be or as they used to be? Think about the new relationships you will make in the coming weeks or months. Think of ways you can make them strong by finding multiple connections, securing deeper and more fulfilling relationships.

Make your relationships "multiplex" and you make them strong, with an anchor that will not let them go!

About The Author:

Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of Made for Success, a company helping individuals and organizations turn their potential into performance, succeed in every area of their lives and achieve their dreams.

To see Chris "live" at the upcoming Jim Rohn Weekend Event as he speaks on the subject of Secrets of Influence go to http://Chris-Widener.InspiresYOU.com/ or call 800-929-0434.

In The News:

pen paper and inkwell


cat break through


Are You Dissing Public Relations

If you leave a star player sitting on the bench,... Read More

Talk Back Radio - Tips To Be A Star On-Air!

Talkback radio offers a fantastic opportunity to access thousands of... Read More

Talk Radio Success

You do not have to hire a publicist or advertise... Read More

Publicity Performance Not Enough?

Even after a nice piece in a national publication, or... Read More

Why Not PR That Gets Real Results?

And not results you can measure only in terms of... Read More

Anchor Your Relationships

I heard a speaker recently who was talking about how... Read More

Press Releases

How do press releases or interest stories have an effect... Read More

Forget The Story Youre Promoting ? Heres What Journalists Really Want From PR People

Although it seems less common these days, there are still... Read More

Much Ado About A Lot!

I say public relations can be a matter of survival... Read More

Public Relations Mixup?

When you pay good money for public relations services, you... Read More

PR: Your 500 Pound Gorilla

What else, for goodness sake, could you as a business,... Read More

Where is the Best PR Value?

Wherever the fundamental premise of public relations is practiced.Look at... Read More

The Press Pack Is Chasing You - Give Them Room

There's good news for public relations execs, marketing professionals and... Read More

Public Relations ? Defining Your Organization from the Inside Out

What do your customers say about your company?Would you let... Read More

Its the Little Details that Can Make or Break a News Story

Have you ever heard of the saying, "One person's trash... Read More

PR Secrets for Small Business

Most small businesses do little to no public relations (PR)... Read More

Financial Planners, Why Advertise When Free Publicity and Marketing Is Better?

Commit this to memory, please: To get in the media,... Read More

Top Five Publicity Myths

Most people consider getting publicity the most important part of... Read More

Go Ahead, Marketing-Minded Financial Planners, Call a Reporter

Yes, you can call a reporter.I've said it before, in... Read More

Dealing With Reporters in Your Small Business

It behooves you to know and remember the names of... Read More

How to Write a Press Release

Why You Should Write Press Releases: A press release is... Read More

What is News?

What may be the more appropriate question is: What makes... Read More

PR: Heres All You Need to Know

Above all, you need to know that the right PR... Read More

Publicity - Use This System to Track Publicity Progress

Tracking your correspondence with reporters, via phone or email, is... Read More

Publicity: A Financial Planners Best Marketing Friend

There's an old African proverb:"If you think you are too... Read More

Detailing The Famous Kentucky Derby Train

The annual detailing of the Kentucky Derby Train is an... Read More

Doubt PRs Clout? Dont!

Done right, it helps modify the behaviors of your most... Read More

Public Relations: Converting the Non-Believers

What's the real reason some managers shy away from public... Read More

Do You See PRs Real Value?

As a business, non-profit or association manager, do you see... Read More

Whats Your Op-Ed?

Everyone has an opinion on something, and you can leverage... Read More

Using the Media - Five Reasons Why

The media has the power to shape public opinion and... Read More

PR Campaigns ? How To Get To Grips With The Media

If you're serious about getting great results from your PR... Read More

Post Your Press Release Online ? For Free!!

Are you launching a new product or website? Announcing a... Read More