Soul Mate Myths

But the cold truth is that most people have never known the inner radiance of their own soul. Instead, they cling to the many myths about the soul mate relationship that are simply not true. These false beliefs need to be understood. Here are just a few.

Myth One

Many people believe that they will find their soul simply by

• looking
• wishing
• hoping and
• dreaming.

They feel that somehow this person will come along and make them eternally happy. This is the most naive of all the soul mate myths.

Myth Two

Others tend to rely upon how much they are attracted to another person to determine if they are their soul mate or not. The truth is that our attractions are very deceiving. The myth is that we can trust our feelings of attraction, as if our feelings are a validation of the facts.

Further, the attraction you may have for someone could actually be a fatal attraction without you even realizing it. You may think a person is your soul mate, but you could simply be sexually obsessed with them. To learn more about fatal attractions, check out this book.

Myth Three

Why are so many of us looking for a soul mate when we don't have any capacity for true heart intimacy? Even if our soul mate actually does appear, we become so terrified of giving our heart to them that we run 100 miles in the other direction. The unconscious myth here seems to be that we can find our soul mate without surrendering our heart.

Myth Four

Another myth is that we would recognize our soul mate if we met them. We fail to realize that if our soul mate reflects our soul, and we are unable to feel our own inner radiance -- don't really love ourself or know who we are -- then we will be unable to recognize him/her. In act, you could know such a person for years without even recognizing that they are your soul mate. I know this to be true, because it happened to me.

So, how do you find your soul mate?

If we really do want to find our soul mate, we must realize that we have to awaken to a greater capacity for surrendering our heart. By surrendering our heart, we will know the wound of love as well as the profound sense of intimacy that comes with it.

Take the free Soul Mate Test and check out your myths. It may be time to get rid of a few.

Randall Curtis is a professional astrologer with world-wide clients, founder of Planetary Psychology©, and The Institute of Professional Astrology. He is he author of an outstanding text on astrology, "No One is a Mystery - How to Use the Planets." He uses a combination of planets, signs, and numbers to reveal our capacity to find our soul mate.

He can be reached at http://www.matchmakingheaven.com

---

Improve Your Relationships Through Vastu

Do you want be in a relationship that brings you... Read More

Gay and Lesbian Relationships

America has a reluctance to accept relationships between people of... Read More

Anniversary Blues

Jamie and Kurt are a sweet, successful couple in their... Read More

The Sting

Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 28,... Read More

The Battle of the Sexes!

During my personal experiences with some of my relationships, I... Read More

The Friend Who Taught Me

Knowing her day can be dreadfully tiresome when she mounts... Read More

Reading Each Others Mind

I cannot tell you how many times I have heard... Read More

The Type of Woman Men Fall in Love With

I'd like to shed some light on something that women... Read More

Affairs: Advice for the One Who Was Betrayed

You are hurt, you are angry, you are simply devastated.Things... Read More

Building the Bond in Your Relationship

A bond (relationship wise) is when two people have a... Read More

Relationship Habits

How many of you have ever been involved with a... Read More

Dont Be A Doormat in Your Relationship

There comes a point in every relationship when the person... Read More

Parasitic Relationship

Something in my life is weighing heavily on my mind,... Read More

Dont Ignore the Signs: How Emotional Infidelity Can Ruin Your Relationship

Emotional infidelity can start with a simple hi or a... Read More

What to Do when Your Family Feels He is Not Good Enough for You

Parents and loved ones always seem to put a damper... Read More

Relationship Advice for Women - Beyond the Happy Ending - Part 1 The Nothing Syndrome

We've all heard the stories. The princess finds her prince... Read More

Finding Your Feng Shui Power Spots for Love and Romance

The first step in using feng shui to attract a... Read More

Five Tips for Breaking Free of The Drama Habit and Developing a Healthier Arguing Style

We all feel angry from time to time, but feeling... Read More

Can You Become A Better Friend After Taking A Friendship Quiz?

Q. Does a friendship quiz really work?A. That depends upon... Read More

Why Its Good To Be Alone

Have you noticed that there's an ebb and flow to... Read More

Youve Been Dumped - Heres How to Get Over It

Weve all been there. Weve fallen in love with somebody... Read More

Whats Up With Unconditional Love?

To tell you the truth, I'm a little disillusioned with... Read More

Don?t Snuff Out Expressions of Liking

It is hard to express all the emotions to somebody... Read More

Should You Forgive Infidelity?

If you're asking yourself that question, then somewhere within you... Read More

Creative Visualizations for Love

To manifest love through creative visualization, you first need to... Read More

Better Than Help

One thing that women in abusive relationships and their family... Read More

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places? - How to fine tune your relationship radar

I don't think a week goes by that I don't... Read More

Great Relationships: 4 More Dumb MIstakes and 4 Smarter Moves to Make

1) Treat the family you have come from as more... Read More

Passion Drought: Turning the Fizzle Back Into Sizzle In Your Relationship; Part 1

IntroductionMany gay men in both short and long-term relationships report... Read More

Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

It's one of the ways you can spot a woman... Read More

The Tablet of Venus

In the 17th century, divination devices called The Tablets of... Read More

Relationship Arguments - 7 Ways to Heal Past Hurts

Q: I've read that you are never supposed to bring... Read More

Can a Male and Female be JUST Friends?

Introduction Have you ever heard or have you ever seen,... Read More