Soul Mate Myths

But the cold truth is that most people have never known the inner radiance of their own soul. Instead, they cling to the many myths about the soul mate relationship that are simply not true. These false beliefs need to be understood. Here are just a few.

Myth One

Many people believe that they will find their soul simply by

  • looking
  • wishing
  • hoping and
  • dreaming.
They feel that somehow this person will come along and make them eternally happy. This is the most naive of all the soul mate myths.

Myth Two

Others tend to rely upon how much they are attracted to another person to determine if they are their soul mate or not. The truth is that our attractions are very deceiving. The myth is that we can trust our feelings of attraction, as if our feelings are a validation of the facts.

Further, the attraction you may have for someone could actually be a fatal attraction without you even realizing it. You may think a person is your soul mate, but you could simply be sexually obsessed with them. To learn more about fatal attractions, check out this book.

Myth Three

Why are so many of us looking for a soul mate when we don't have any capacity for true heart intimacy? Even if our soul mate actually does appear, we become so terrified of giving our heart to them that we run 100 miles in the other direction. The unconscious myth here seems to be that we can find our soul mate without surrendering our heart.

Myth Four

Another myth is that we would recognize our soul mate if we met them. We fail to realize that if our soul mate reflects our soul, and we are unable to feel our own inner radiance -- don't really love ourself or know who we are -- then we will be unable to recognize him/her. In act, you could know such a person for years without even recognizing that they are your soul mate. I know this to be true, because it happened to me.

So, how do you find your soul mate?

If we really do want to find our soul mate, we must realize that we have to awaken to a greater capacity for surrendering our heart. By surrendering our heart, we will know the wound of love as well as the profound sense of intimacy that comes with it.

Take the free Soul Mate Test and check out your myths. It may be time to get rid of a few.

Randall Curtis is a professional astrologer with world-wide clients, founder of Planetary Psychology©, and The Institute of Professional Astrology. He is he author of an outstanding text on astrology, "No One is a Mystery - How to Use the Planets." He uses a combination of planets, signs, and numbers to reveal our capacity to find our soul mate.

He can be reached at http://www.matchmakingheaven.com

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