Enhancing Vulnerability To Master Perfectionism

One of the ways a person must advance past perfectionism is to deal with and gradually become more and more vulnerable. Every good perfectionist knows that this is VERY scary.

? Vulnerability involves allowing oneself to be open to feedback-both positive and negative from others.

? Vulnerability also involves the real risk that a perfectionist will have to experience moments of fragility, weakness, and pain.

? Vulnerability means risking feeling trapped in a situation-either by circumstance, or emotion, or mental blocks.

? Vulnerability takes one through the unknown waters of life on life's terms.

? With vulnerability, one is able to look backwards and glean all the lessons, compile their history, learn and become a much stronger individual!!

? Yet being vulnerable, even with one trusted ally, allows the former perfectionist to slowly evolve: to slowly see themselves, their life, their history? and to be ok.

Some suggestions:

* First you will need to enlist the help of at least one outside person for accurate feedback. This can be a trusted friend, a pastor, chaplain, sponsor, or coach. You are to seek out someone that you can develop closeness to, someone that you feel safe with: someone that will verifiably love and support you while you take these risks in opening up.

* Second, take one significant area of your life and open up yourself to this person. Choose an area where you know you struggle with other peoples perceptions of how you look in that area. Begin to share about a current or former situation. Share your joys, share your struggles, share your doubts. Ask questions. Listen to feedback. Be willing to accept insight, help, and accurate views about yourself. And take note of how this response in no way negates their high opinion of you already. To the other person-you will begin to become a real person, someone human and able to be related to.

* Lastly, begin to slowly extend this new adventure of trust to other people around you. It is important that in the beginning you become vulnerable to trustworthy people. If you open up to someone you respect and value. Inappropriate people will always give you feedback that you discount. Your goal is to realize you don't have to be superhuman to be loved, accepted, and fit in. So choose wisely.

Until next time-- all the best,

About The Author

Kate Hufstetler is a well established Personal Life Coach. Her clients come from both the United States and overseas. She offers coaching services via email and phone consultations. For more information and current highlights please visit: http://comedreamwithme.com/

Kate@comedreamwithme.com

---

Choosing a Winning Business Idea

You've probably heard it a hundred times by now -... Read More

Is Mans Next Step Like A Can of Potted Meat?

Is it the dawning of the Age of Aquarius? For... Read More

Business Innovation ? the Best Ideas

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

What to Do When You Are Chased by a Snake

I lived for several years on the Japanese island of... Read More

Business Innovation ? Confidence through Competence

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

The Pendulum Swings Right - A Major Shift is Happening Inside Our Brains

The world is now changing again, it appears. The logical... Read More

Imagination

Imagination is the unreal, real state of mind, where all... Read More

Think Outside The Cup and Saucer

There were four of us at dinner. Three ordered "regular"... Read More

Can We Change People?

There was a class of "challenged" children and many teachers... Read More

Penny For Your Thoughts?

Every artifact, every tool, everything ever designed or created by... Read More

Use Your Intuition As a Valuable Tool for Change

Here's a subject that we don't normally think of when... Read More

Innovation Management ? moving past the wall

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

Solve Problems With A Word List

To creatively solve problems you need to get your mind... Read More

Business Innovation ? Real Self versus the Trained Self

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

Business Innovation ? the Value of Decision Makers

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

Starving for Intimacy

Some are seeking love in a bottle. Others look for... Read More

The Hidden Superpowers Of Your Mind

The mind is an infinite wonder. It has the fantastic... Read More

Innovation Management ? The Harsh Facts Of Life For All Innovators

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

Harness the Power of Skill Sets and Mindsets

When you have a problem, sometimes you need a new... Read More

Its A Quantum Thing

We don't need to understand quantum physics entirely in order... Read More

Creativity and Innovation Management - Good Ideas Part 1

The constant search for Good Ideas has resulted in many... Read More

A New Pair of Shoes

Do the NewAn old pair of shoesDo you have a... Read More

Life ? The Teacher

You've probably heard the phrase "repetition is the mother of... Read More

How To Be An Innovator In A World Of Change

Innovators are opportunity-oriented.What's the hidden opportunity in that problem? Where... Read More

Business Innovation ? Good Thinking

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

Seeking Initiative and Innovation? Reward Failure!

Based on Proprietary Research"If you want to increase initiative and... Read More

What is NLP?

NLP Explained.....NLP is the study of how people organise their... Read More

Innovation Management ? 5 Ideas An Hour

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

Innovation Makes Leaders

Basically what innovation does is making your business unique and... Read More

Change Is a Skill Development Learning Process

Change, like almost every other life experience, is a learning... Read More

Creativity and Innovation Management ? Joy and Sustainability

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

Business Innovation ? Masks and Trance

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More

Business Innovation ? Eliciting Talent

Creativity can be defined as problem identification and idea generation... Read More