The Dating Game

Why is it some people look at dating as a game while other look at it as serious "soul mate searching"? That all depends on what you searching for; a friend, a lover, or are you searching for a true lifetime commitment?

The existence of this game makes sense. Most people do not want their choice of mate to be the first person who comes along. So people explore various partners in hope of finding a good match. Some will be winners, but some will be losers in this game. Others who have played the game now have a clear idea of what they are looking for in a mate and are more inclined to settle down into a serious relationship. They key is to find someone who is at the same stage of the game as you are.

There are some people who believe they are ready to settle down but have not yet opened their minds and hearts to a real relationship. These people usually have rules that they believe they should adhere with when entering the dating world. While their intentions may be good, in their minds they have a picture of what their "perfect" soul mate will be. The problem is no one could possible ever match up to this so-called "perfect mate. So the question is are they in or out of the game? While they may truly feel ready to settle down, in reality they still date continuously trying to find the one that measures up to the standard they have set.

This brings me to a best selling book called "The Rules". This book explains how women should play hard to get if they want to get their guy. I know women who actually use this book as their guide to find the man of their dreams. They follow the advice on how to be mysterious and appear exciting, only to have it fall apart. So what's the problem?

Well when you believe you are ready for a serious relationship and instead of going into it honestly and openly you portray a character from this "dating guide", you're not being honest and are not being true to yourself. What happens when you fall for this person and want to become more available? What happens when you're tired of playing the role of the ever exciting date and you need to get real? If this relationship is ever going to evolve you have to be yourself sometime. Will your potential mate still be interested when you're suddenly available to spend every Friday night with them?

The answer is; before you can label where you are in the dating game you have to figure it out yourself. Real people want real relationships, not dates based on a set of rules and guidelines. Of course there are still general criteria people have when looking for a potential mate, such as, location, moral values etc.

Your journey will require the need to look within yourself, and discovering what you type of relationship you are truly in search of.

This Article is property of LifeChoicesWeb.Com. You may re-print this article for your e-zine or website along with this attached credit information and link. Copyright 2005

Lori Grudzien is the Managing Editor of the website LifeChoicesWeb.Com, a website dedicated to "Living a full life, by learning to love yourself". Topics include Health, Aging, Divorce, Relationships, Career, Stress, Anxiety, Self-Esteem & Self Help.

In The News:


pen paper and inkwell


cat break through


Why I Prefer Online Dating

The next most likely place to meet your match is... Read More

How to Make Women Want You

You don't need a guitar, rock-hard abs, or even a... Read More

The Best Way to Pick Up a Girl

You see her across the room. Ah, so attractive. But... Read More

The Truth About Women Revealed

Have you ever imagined what it would be like to... Read More

Dating in a Modern World

As the UK Online Dating market keeps on growing day... Read More

Take Your Time

How long do you think it takes to really get... Read More

Online Dating Tips ? Creating Personal Ads

Creating a personal ad for online dating services is not... Read More

Online Dating

Dating has become easier for everyone due to the emergence... Read More

A Real Man

Something I find 100% humor in is the fact that... Read More

Healing the Midlife Love Crisis

All I wanted was to fall in love and live... Read More

How To Have A Successful Conversation With Any Woman!

To have a successful conversation with any woman you must... Read More

10 Secrets to Online Dating Success

Online dating is a new way to find friends or... Read More

Dating Rules - Dress Nicely

Wear good clothes, e.g. a good shirt and a tie.... Read More

A Single Mans Astrological Guide to Single Women

ARIES (March 21 - April 19) - She's aggressive with... Read More

No More Desperation Dating

When you think about what you find attractive in a... Read More

Online Dating Tips - Five Steps to Creating Your Profile

Creating your online dating profile is an aspect often commonly... Read More

Have You Lost That Loving Feeling?

Would you like to discover Easy and Creative ideas to... Read More

How To Repel The Opposite Sex

There is a war between the sexes. This war is... Read More

Dating Dilemma: The Man Who Said Hed Call and Didnt

You went out with the guy. You both had a... Read More

Funnel Your Way to Love

I call it "The Funnel." And it's the best way... Read More

Let Women Talk and Help

Women love to talk (just think of how long they... Read More

90% of Your Dating Issues Solved!

A friend of mine recently exclaimed, "Dating is so complicated!"... Read More

Top 10 Photo Blunders

The following no-nonsense list was compiled from interviews with long-time... Read More

1000 Proof Liquor

Each and every woman is an actress in their own... Read More

How to Be a Great First Date

Okay, you've scored a date with a sexy somebody for... Read More

Dating Tips for Matchmaking and Friend Finder Sites

Three years ago, I met my boyfriend Andy through the... Read More

Have You Tried Online Dating, Only to be Disappointed?

Millions of people subscribe to Online dating services, but very... Read More

10 Important, Easy Dating Rules to Ensure Your Success

1) Leave the mobile phone off! Do not answer it... Read More

Guys that Beautiful Girls Want: You Can Be One

"Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us."- Earl... Read More

Getting The Most From A Romantic Relationship

Romantic relationships happen because of the hopes and dreams a... Read More

Dating Tips For Animal Lovers!

Did you know that experts say the way people treat... Read More

Online Dating Service! Is Matchmaking On The Internet Right For You?

Online dating service! Is it right for you? That would... Read More

Seduction Secrets For Men Part 2 - Your Looks DO Matter

When it comes to the topic of looks with women,... Read More