Nice Girls Don?t Get the Corner Office 101 - A Book Summary

Dr. Frankel clearly identifies the common mistakes ?101 in all-that women commit unconsciously to sabotage their careers. This book provides revolutionary guides to help the women of today eliminate the girl-like behaviors they became accustomed with, which hold them back professionally.

How You Play the Game

Unfortunately, women are not as trained to participate in competitive sports. It is only recently that women started making their marks in this field. Thus, most women do not know the rules of the game of business. They simply do not know how to play it-and more importantly, how to win it.

Some of the common mistakes women commit as they play the game of business are: pretending it isn't a game; playing the game safely and within bounds; working hard; doing the what you want; avoiding office politics; being the conscience; protecting jerks; holding your tongue; failing to capitalize on relationships; and, not understanding the needs of your constituents.

How You Act

Being successful in the world of business is not only dependent on your knowledge of how to play it. It is also important to know how to act, professionally. Dr. Frankel enumerates some unlikely behaviors in the workplace that can be hard career busters.

These are: polling before making a decision; needing to be liked; not needing to be liked; not asking questions for fear of sounding stupid; acting like a man; telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth (so help you God); sharing too much personal information; being overly concerned with offending others; denying the importance of money; flirting; acquiescing to bullies; decorating your office like your living room; feeding others; offering a limp handshake; being financially insecure; and, helping.

How You Think

Changing the way you think can greatly impact a change in your career. Note the beliefs and thought patterns you learn early in girlhood that you need to reconsider and then eventually forget.

Some of these are: making miracles; taking full responsibility; obediently following instructions; viewing men in authority as father figures; limiting your possibilities; ignoring the quid pro quo (something that's exchanged in return for something else); skipping meetings; putting work ahead of your personal life; letting people waste your time; prematurely abandoning your career goals; ignoring the importance of network relationships; refusing perks; making up negative stories; and, striving for perfection.

How You Brand and Market Yourself

Marketing oneself is as important as marketing a specific brand. Think of yourself as a brand that's needs to be marketed effectively. Alongside these come some important points that women need to particularly remember.

The following are some mistakes to avoid in marketing yourself: falling to define your brand; minimizing your work or position; using only your nickname or first name; waiting to be noticed; refusing high-profile assignments; being modest; staying in you safety zone; giving away your ideas; working in stereotypical roles or departments; ignoring feedback; and, being invisible;

How You Sound

Put special attention to your choice words, tone of voice, speed of speech and thought organization process. These usually matter more than the content of your speech. An articulately delivered speech will help you be branded as knowledgeable, confident and competent. Remember, how you sound comprises 90% of your credibility.

Take note of these common mistakes: couching statements as questions; using preambles; explaining; asking permission; apologizing; using minimizing words; using qualifiers; not answering the question; talking too fast; the inability to speak the language of your business; using nonwords; using touchy-feely language; sandwich-effect; speaking softly; speaking at a higher-than-natural pitch; trailing voice mails; failing to pause or reflect before responding.

How You Look

There is this common notion that "the best and the brightest are rewarded with promotions and choice assignments." This is entirely wrong. Those who are competent enough, sound and look good are the ones who

move forward in their careers. Statistically, research shows that 55% of your credibility comes from how you look; 38% from how you sound; and, only 7% from what you actually say.

Carry yourself properly by avoiding these mistakes: smiling inappropriately; taking up too little space; using gestures inconsistent with your message; being over- or underanimated; tilting your head; wearing inappropriate makeup; wearing the wrong hairstyle; dressing inappropriately; sitting on your foot; grooming in public; sitting in meetings with your hands under the table; wearing your reading glasses around your neck; accessorizing too much; and, failing to maintain eye contact;

How You Respond

It is important to know how to respond to the ways others treat you. And some of the common pitfalls women do as a response to a certain gesture are as follows:

Internalizing messages; believing others know more than you; taking notes, getting coffee, and making copies; tolerating inappropriate behavior; exhibiting too much patience; accepting dead-end assignments; putting the needs of others before your own; denying your power; allowing yourself to be the scapegoat; accepting fait accompli (irreversible or predetermined decisions); permitting others' mistakes to inconvenience you; being the last to speak; playing the gender card; tolerating sexual harassment; and, crying.

By: Regine P. Azurin and Yvette Pantilla Regine Azurin is the President of BusinessSummaries.com, a company that provides business book summaries of the latest bestsellers for busy executives and entrepreneurs.

http://www.bizsum.com "A Lot Of Great Books....Too Little Time To Read" Free Book Summaries Of Latest Bestsellers for Busy Executives and Entrepreneurs

Mailto: mailto:freearticle@bizsum.com
BusinessSummaries is a BusinessSummaries.com service.

(c) Copyright 2001- 2005, BusinessSummaries.com - Wisdom In A Nutshell

---

Russ Whitney: Journey To Greatness

Teenage years for Russ Whitney were not filled with opportunity,... Read More

FDA Approved Vagus Nerve Stimulation Therapy Can Improve The Quality of Your Life

As of August 2005, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration(FDA)... Read More

Never Fry Bacon in the Nude - AchieveMax® Top Ten Book Review

Never Fry Bacon in the Nude (And Other Lessons from... Read More

Going Deeper - Book Review

Going Deeper by Jean-Claude Koven is certainly a nicely presented,... Read More

Living in Darkness - Book Review

Award winning author John Roynesdal, is a retired English teacher... Read More

Book review on Finite Capacity Scheduling, Part II

Now add ten more car wash trucks, with the corresponding... Read More

The Cranberry Bog - Book Review

"Scott Underhill takes readers on a stimulating, emotional ride in... Read More

Hug Your Customers - AchieveMax® Top Ten Book Review

Don't panic. Jack Mitchell, the author of Hug Your Customers:... Read More

Chris Carpenters Google Cash - An Ebook Review

It is rare to find a brand new blueprint for... Read More

Jason Seeleys War - Book Review

"Jason Seeley's War" is centered in the heart of a... Read More

The Southwest Airlines Way - AchieveMax® Top Ten Book Review

Over the years, several books and countless magazine and newspaper... Read More

Sportcraft Treadmills

Sportcraft Treadmills - Lowww EndSportcraft treadmills are late entries from... Read More

Ebook Review: How To Write And Publish Your Own eBook In As Little As 7 Days

Jim Edwards and Joe Vitale who are both well known... Read More

Pastoral Theology: Essentials of Ministry Book Review

Author: Thomas C. Oden Paperback: 384 pages Publisher: HarperSanFrancisco;... Read More

Erasure and the Othering of Texts

Percival Everett's Erasure takes a look at how racism affects... Read More

Dont Eat This Book by Morgan Spurlock: Lightweight But Convincing Expose of the Fast Food Industry

For those of you who've been on another planet for... Read More

Rat Race Blues E-book Review

RAT RACE BLUES: How To Break The Stranglehold Darlene Arechederra... Read More

A Ghost in Cornwall

This land is my memories. For two thousand years this... Read More

The Birth of I Confess

I dreamed since I was fourteen years old to spend... Read More

Metaphorically Selling

The Big IdeaA lot of people consider selling a very... Read More

The Rich Jerk Review: New Agressive and Effective Internet Marketing Methods for All

The Rich Jerk "Making Money on the internet is Easy"... Read More

Ferns Dragon - Book Review

"Fern's Dragon is a wonderfully fun read that stimulates the... Read More

Jesus and the Gnostic Cathars

These are some of the highlights of a connected story... Read More

Book Review: Christmas in Dairyland

Author/Publisher Christmas in Dairyland by LeAnn R. Ralph Published by... Read More

Book Review: What Color Is Your Parachute?

What Color is Your Parachute? Reviewed by: Matt Keegan ©... Read More

Constantine

Loosely based on the graphic novel Hellraiser, Constantine follows the... Read More

Book Summary: What Is The Emperor Wearing?

This article is based on the following book:What Is The... Read More

Author Releases Comprehensive Family History Book On The Family of JACKEL, JECKEL, IEKEL, YAKEL

When the topic of family history comes up, where do... Read More

Unspoken Dreams - Book Review

"Carol Bennett writes a stunning mystery-thriller. Her chilling entrance is... Read More

On the Brink of Risk - A Book You Wont Put Down

On the Brink of Risk is a fiction novel inspired... Read More

Book Excerpt: Give Me a Home Where the Dairy Cows Roam

When I reached the top of the driveway after getting... Read More

Free Ebook Offer: The Story of America: Discovery

Did Columbus first discover America?Did the Vikings first discover America?Did... Read More

The Leadership Pill - AchieveMax® Top Ten Book Review

The Leadership Pill is another volume for those of you... Read More