No matter how young or old you are, you must have gotten to a point in your life when you have to take a big decision, which will probably affect your entire existence. There is no doubt that there are certain moments in life when you feel helpless and disoriented and believe you could use a hand in order to figure out how to proceed with your life.
Those particular moments are the very moments when you should not depend on anybody's advice, because, even if they gave it to you with the best intentions, in case anything goes wrong, you're always going to blame those persons. That is why specialists strongly advise you, every time you find yourself at a crossroads, to always take the decisions by yourself. Obviously, the question arising is: how can we know how to take it and which is the best solution?
The answer is never going to be simple for some of us. However, there is a technique that can be of great help and employed regularly will have great results: it is called meditation and it has been used for centuries in certain rituals and by ancients civilizations. Even in old and famous books, like the Bible, for example, we are invited to meditate, to discover and fight the evil in us and by knowledge to gain control over our decisions and our lives.
How do we proceed when meditating? First of all, we need to be away from any source of distraction, because we can't analyze our deepest feelings and thoughts and watch a movie at the same time. Secondly, we need to ask ourselves a series of questions that will help us to better determine who we really are. The questions should relate to everyday aspects:
What do you like doing?
What made you most proud of yourself during your entire life?
What is it that you always wanted to do and you never found the time? (you can include here anything from visiting friends, to going to Antarctica, or seeing your dentist)
What role does money play in your life?
What is it more important for you, you family life or your career?
How much do you depend on others?
If you are worried about a certain decision, let all the questions be related to that issue. If you're just confused in general, when asking the questions, think about the common topics that one has to deal with during his life. Don't forget to write down the answers. Try to concentrate and to be sincere; after all, nobody will judge you.
All these questions will help you determine exactly where you stand and what is it that you want form life. All you have to do is to get the right interpretation of your own replies. In order to do that, help yourself to a coup of tea or your favorite coffee and take the time to analyze them thoroughly. Mark with a red pen whatever you find pride worthy answers and with a black one the things that don't make you proud.
Post the list somewhere where you can see it more than once a day, or post it in more than one place. You'll notice that, step by step, even unwillingly, the black things on your list will start turning red. Don't forget to renew the list when most of it has turned red! It is the best way to always be aware what your expectations from life are! Good luck!
Johan Vanden Berghe ©2005 All Rights Reserved.
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