Use The Power of Focus When You Want To Get A Date

The Importance of Focus

People are always looking for ways to win over somebody they are interested in. Often times when you lose the opportunity, it has nothing to do with your ability to close. The only secrets to closing more is by focusing more on your target more, believing in yourself, and having the proper attitudes and body language. You are either 100% congruent or you aren't.

Focusing on a person you wish to pick up goes far beyond the words coming out of your mouth. Your focus directly affects your body language, your tone, and your messages. These are three of the key factors that people use to determine if they like you and if you can enrich their life.

Focusing on who you are interested in picking up means that you are actively listening and that you personally care about them. These things can not be faked. You must truly want to listen and you must truly care about helping them. That is the only secret to really winning somebody over.

Body language will show that you are focused on your who you are interested in. Your target will detect your body language even if they are not aware of it consciously. We teach the proper body langauge in our workshops. When you are engaged in a conversation with who you are picking up and you remain focused, it can be nothing but positive body language.

The same is true for your tone of voice. If you are listening with the intent to understand, instead of listening with the intent to respond, then that amount of personal attention will reflect in the tone of your voice. The tone of your voice, like your body language, plays a role in how well someone receives your message.

The content of your message will naturally be in-line with what the person you are picking up would like to hear if you focus on them and nothing else. When you are in-sync with this person you are picking up,

then your target will guide the conversation all the way to the commitment to close the deal.

Here are eight ways to ensure you are focusing on your customer:

1. Relax.

2. Find out something personal about who you are interested in dating.

3. Call them by their first name a few times.

4. Find out some reasons WHY they are interested in you and refer back to those reasons often.

5. Listen to understand the meaning of what it is they are saying. Pay special attention to their body language.

6. If you catch yourself formulating a response before they finish talking, this means that you are not listening.

7. Look your target in the eye.

8. Get your mind right. Why do YOU want to win over this person? If the answer is just to make the sale, then start here.

You need to care about this person you want personally and care about being with them before you can ask them to be with you. A lot of people are well intentioned but lose focus of their target somewhere during their conversation. It is this ability to maintain your focus that will not only differentiate you from your competition; it will win you more dates.

by Robert Torrey

Robert Torrey is one of the instructors for Fidentia a company that teaches Dating confidence. Subscribe to their free newsletter available on their website. http://www.fidentia.org

---

First Date ? Tips for Women

You are on your way to your first date with... Read More

Self-Esteem

It begins with you, and your attitude. There are a... Read More

Why I Prefer Online Dating

The next most likely place to meet your match is... Read More

Christian Singles: Questions To Keep Your Spirit Alive

With special events like Valentine's Day coming and going each... Read More

Dating Tips: The First Impression Matters

Ever had a love at first sight encounter? Totally captured... Read More

Dont Procrastinate when It Comes to Meeting Single Women

Has this ever happened to you? You're at a bar... Read More

10 Tips for Succeding in Dating!

Generally the most important step when dating someone is the... Read More

Personal Values and Christian Dating

Personal values is an important point when it comes to... Read More

How to Tell if a Single Woman is Really Interested in You

It's very important to learn how a single woman acts,... Read More

How to Get More Responses at Online Dating Sites

So, you've decided to join a dating website. You're hoping... Read More

Dumb Dating Mistakes Men Make with Women

Do you strike out with single women in the romance... Read More

Overcoming Your Nervousness About Talking to Women

Standing at the magazine rack thumbing through Cosmo, she has... Read More

How To Have Sex On A First Date

Guys have all different motives for trying to be successful... Read More

Bachelor Dream

Step aside Hugh Hefner. Elvis King is back in the... Read More

Internet Dating Tips for Beginners

There are lots of Internet dating sites available. Some are... Read More

Should You Go on a Dating Hiatus?

Sometimes we need a hiatus from dating. A "hiatus" is... Read More

Online Dating - 5 Essential Safety Tips

So, you've decided to take the plunge and follow in... Read More

The Freedom to Exist

This article will seem like just good old plain common... Read More

Yahoo Personals Offers a Great Way to Meet and Date New People

With more people turning to online dating every year, it's... Read More

From Pen Pal Romance to Online Dating

While dating in person usually starts with physical attraction, dating... Read More

The Right Dating Strategy

So, you have decided to do it. Get out there... Read More

How a Blind Date Can Increase Your Psychic Abilities

So how can a blind date increase your psychic abilities?... Read More

The Best First Date

First dates cause anxiety and thoughts of disastrous and embarrassing... Read More

Do It And They Will Come: Pursuing New Adventures To Find Mr / Ms Right

Are you tired of the whole dating scene? Have you... Read More

Conversation Starters Can Save Your First Date

Conversation starters can literally save your life on a first... Read More

Best Places to go on a Date

Does the waiter know how you like your steak, and... Read More

Hes So Not Into You

These are words women don't want to hear when they're... Read More

When it Comes to Multicultural Dating The Most Important Ingredient is Love

Have you been only dating people from your own ethnic... Read More

5 Signs Why He Wont Leave His Wife

LadiesYes, we all have a friend who is or has... Read More

Coming Out... As an Internet Dater

A few weeks ago I was having lunch with a... Read More

7 Tips to Dating Online in Safety

Dating online can be great fun, stimulating and exciting. So... Read More

Have You Lost That Loving Feeling?

Would you like to discover Easy and Creative ideas to... Read More

Dating a Non Christian

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what... Read More