If You Want To Date When You’re A Single Parent
If you think that Cupid has given up on you just because you have a kid that you have to take care of, think again. Dating when you are a single parent is possible. In fact, there are a lot of single parents out there who have managed to find second chances with great guys and gals. Besides, single parenting now is accepted by society and it is no longer an issue if you already have a kid. If it becomes a problem, then the person doesn’t really deserve your attention, much more your devotion.
Don’t get me wrong. It will have its tough moments. You will probably have problems with your schedules and yes, you will probably need to learn how to juggle your time and keep your priorities straight but you can make it work. All it takes is a clear mind and a ready heart. Here are some tips on how to make dating a success.
1. Make sure that you are ready
You have gotten burned and the person who you thought loved you before have turned their back on their responsibility and left you to deal with it. Single parents can have scars too and that means a lot of baggage to deal with. Remember that you already have one baggage—your child—that a potential partner has to deal with. Don’t add another one by springing in some commitment and love issues. If you are not yet ready, do not force it. Love will come naturally when the world feels that you are ready to be in a relationship again.
2. Be serious
When you are a single parent, you just do not have the time to play games anymore. So when you go out on a date, it should be the real thing or don’t do it at all. Take the dating scene very seriously in the sense that you will only go out with people that you feel you can have lasting relationships with. In short, you are dating for keeps and not just coasting along. Most single parents who date actively seek out for potential mates and it is there that they get into trouble. Although it is good to find someone who you can depend on, going out on dates with random people that you’ve met in bars are just not going to cut it. If you just want to have a great time and are just using the excuse of “finding a mother or father figure” for your kid, give yourself the reality check. Your kid needs you more than they need a mother or a father figure.
3. Be honest
One of the mistakes that some single parents do when they date is they don’t tell right off that they have a child to take care of. They wait until the dating has become serious before revealing that little tidbit. Remember that not everybody will be open to the idea and you will save yourself a lot of heartache if you reveal it at the start.