True Success is Generous

"Write checks on a regular basis to those who you want to bless, not those who you owe. Be generous. If you are thinking of one amount, raise it a bit. They'll be glad now. You'll be glad now and later." Chris Widener in the ABC's of Success.

There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who allow their abundance to pile up and bring them a sense of (false) security, and those who use their abundance to increase not only the joy in their lives but also in the lives of others by being generous.

I believe that the truly successful, those who will change the lives of others and leave a legacy, are the ones who are generous with their abundance. So how do we become generous people? Here are some thoughts.

First, get over your idea that money will bring you security. It won't. It might make you feel more secure, and it might enable you to purchase things right now, but all money can disappear quite easily. Markets go south, businesses go bankrupt, and fortunes are lost. History is filled with poor people who were once rich and lost it all. This idea that we can and have to keep it all is one of the greatest myths around. So when we give money away, it doesn't effect us emotionally, bringing out a fear of lost security.

Second, focus on the joy you bring to others when you are generous. I love to be the one to buy something for someone who would enjoy it, to help someone who needs it, or to encourage someone who would be helped by my generosity. There are always people and organizations who will benefit from our generosity and who will be overjoyed by it. And in turn, they will help others.

Third, make giving a planned and methodical task. I write out checks at the beginning of every month to people and organizations that I believe are helping others. I don't owe them this money, I choose to give it to them. It is something I believe in. Every month without fail I write those checks. It keeps me on track and keeps them encouraged, motivated, and moving in the right direction.

As for methodical, remember that over time, even small gifts add up. Maybe you can't afford to give or help with $300 today, but you could with $25 a month for a year. There is no way that my wife and I could afford to give a million dollars away at this stage of our lives, but our goal is to do that before we die. And I believe we will hit that because we are pursuing it methodically every month. And when we get to the end of our lives, we will be able to look back at our generosity and see that we made a difference. But you can't achieve those kinds of goals if you don't start somewhere and stick to a plan.

Fourth, make your generosity spontaneous. Now this takes a lot of self-awareness because I am not suggesting that you get yourself in financial trouble by being foolish, but here it is: Be the generous one of the group. Pick up the check for you friends and others. I have found that if you are wise with your money you won't get yourself into trouble by being the generous one. Picking up lunch won't break the bank. Offer to do nice things for your friends, relatives and co-workers. And then watch your relationships blossom!

Fifth, understand the principle that you reap what you sow. I truly believe that those who are generous, who help others, will always receive back what they need. I live by the principle of John Wesley, "Earn all you can, give all you can, save all you can." This principle brings our finances into perfect tension. Yes we earn, and all that we can, but we also go at our saving and giving with the same kind of gusto! And what happens, but that we are given more to turn around and be generous with again.

Lastly, and this is key for successful people. Never allow there to be strings with your generosity. Do not expect anything in return. That is not generosity but manipulation. Pure generosity is its own reward.

How to start today?

If you aren't currently on a plan of giving, choose a charitable organization you believe in and write them a check - today. And then write that same check on the first of every month.

If you are currently being generous with your resources, seriously consider an increase! Even a percentage or two will help you and them. It will stretch you and encourage them!

Be a Success! Be Generous!

About The Author:

Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of Made for Success, a company helping individuals and organizations turn their potential into performance, succeed in every area of their lives and achieve their dreams.

To see Chris "live" at the upcoming Jim Rohn Weekend Event as he speaks on the subject of Secrets of Influence go to http://Chris-Widener.InspiresYOU.com/ or call 800-929-0434.

In The News:


pen paper and inkwell


cat break through


Clues for Success: Finding Answers Right in Front of Your Face

An old fable tells about a religious man and a... Read More

Reach Your Goals - Create A Soundtrack

Choose a personal theme song and soundtrack that stirs you... Read More

Do You Know Your Success Barriers?

I can tell, with 95% accuracy, if you are going... Read More

The Not So Secret Secrets of Success

Have you ever heard of the "secrets of success"? Many... Read More

10 Questions: Do You Have What It Takes?

Do you have what it takes to be really successful?Have... Read More

Nothing In-Between

Are you on the right track?Stop for a while, look... Read More

Reaping the Fruit of Success in Life

One way to become more successful in your life is... Read More

The True BMI of Success - What is the True Definition of Success?

The TRUE BMI of SUCCESS (B)e a (M)illionaire (I)ndexWhy am... Read More

Your Focus is the KEY to YOUR Success

Why do you need to know your focus when joining... Read More

Set Your Mind For Success

Did you know you can literally program your mind so... Read More

3 Keys to Fulfill Your Wildest Dreams

If you'd like to fulfill your long-held dreams, try a... Read More

Fanning the Flames of Passion -- Reconnecting With Life

Imagine you are a fire. Fires burn at different levels... Read More

Wheres Your Value?

The simple action of writing the every day grocery demonstrates... Read More

Consuming Passions Consuming Success

The other day I went shopping at the local consumer... Read More

Run Towards Fear: A Prescription for Success

Fear, or negative anxiety, is the modern day bubonic plague,... Read More

Create A Realistic Plan For Your Success

Success is the most desired ambition of the human beings.... Read More

Measure Effort To Achieve Success!

Let's say you're moving forward in your efforts to achieve... Read More

The Impossible Dream

The 72,500 men, women and children sat in an uncomfortable... Read More

Take Yourself to the Top!

Everybody wants to get to the top, whether it is... Read More

10 Simple Tips For Attaining Wealth

What with the millions of words printed every day about... Read More

Top 6 Business Success Strategies

"The principal purpose of business is to create a customer."... Read More

The Secret of Lasting Personal Change

Why do diets end up in gained weight? Why do... Read More

Still Mourning That Business Failure!

No one wants to fail. But when in business you... Read More

Dont Assume You Cant Do it, Just Because Conventional Wisdom Says you Cant

Be weary and leery when it comes to standardized tests... Read More

Relationships-- the Secret to Your Professional and Personal Success

The HungryIn May of 2005 there were over 2 million... Read More

Is Shyness Affecting Your Job?

It is accepted that most people have felt shy at... Read More

Learning How To Fall: You Have To Learn To Fall Before You Can Ride With Confidence!

About a month ago, I was hit by a car... Read More

Emerging As Winners!

People like to emerge as winners by hook or crook... Read More

Identify and Remedy Work Addiction

Work addiction is an unrestrained, unfulfillable internal demand for constant... Read More

Reach Your Goals - Visualize Success

Visualize success, and what you'll do to reward yourself A... Read More

The Bubble Of Prosperity

My life is a bubble; but how much solid cash... Read More

Success Lessons From Josey Wales

The Outlaw Josey Wales is an interesting Western that I... Read More

Success Analysis - The Concept of Critical Mass

How many times have you thought about being successful, famous,... Read More