By Planning and Exerting Effort, You Can Change Things For The Better

Most of us plan to find the love of our life, our soul mate. It is a natural human instinct to find a partner. Someone who we can grow and expand with, someone we can have a family with, someone we can spend the rest of our life with.

We actively search and plan to find Mr or Mrs Right. We go to parties, clubs and bars. We are always actively looking for that person until we find them. When we find someone we fancy we do everything we can to attract their attention and then courage permitting, we ask them out on a date. If the date works out well because we enjoy there company and we have certain things in common, we will date again.

After a while, we will decide if this person is for us. If they are not, we break-up and start the searching process again. If they are the right person, we start to make plans for the future with them. As you spend more and more time together, your relationship grows and strengthens.

So if we can put in all this time and effort, and motivate ourselves to find Mr or Mrs Right, why cant we put this same amount of effort and deliberation into gaining a satisfactory career path and improve the monetary success in our lives? If we were to use similar tactics, and exert the same amount of energy and planning, would we not eventually arrive at the same conclusion and start to make plans for the future?

The strange thing is, if our relationship begins to breakdown and we become unhappy, we try to settle our differences. If all fails, we break-up and go our separate ways. We then start the whole process again. Now if we can do this on a relationship level. Why don't we do this on the career or monetary level?

How come if we are unhappy in a relationship and can see it going nowhere, we can "call it a day" and find someone else? Nevertheless, will stay in a dead-end, mundane, going nowhere, unhappy job for years. Surely changing your career path should be easier then changing your partner.

So think back to when you were trying to win the heart of someone you liked. Think back to all the planning, scheming and the coincidences you created. When they went to a party, you made sure you were there. You possibly knocked into them on purpose, just to start a conversation with them. You went to the same club as them, with the soul intention of getting them to notice you.

You can use the same tactics to improve your career. Join a club were the people you want to meet "hang-out". Join chat rooms and forums to build relationships with likeminded people in your line of business. Create a scenario where you can bump into your boss and quickly run through an idea. The possibilities are endless.

Remember you created your world. You have to make things happen. By planning and exerting effort, you can change things for the better. It's up to you.

Mark Claridge specializes in teaching motivational and self-development skills. In his new book "Mindset and Match" he covers amongst other subjects how having the correct mindset can bring you all you want out of life and is available at http://www.mindsetandmatch.com

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