How Can I Get Some Time to Myself?

"I never seem to have any time for myself. What can I do?"

When my two year old followed me to the toilet today I had very similar thought to yours. As busy parents we can often feel like there is no time for us and we are forever running around after others. We can be great at looking after everyone else and so often put ourselves at the bottom of the list.

Many of the mums I coach are surprised when I tell them it is time to start putting themselves first. If you are running on half full this affects every area of your life - your relationships, health or work ? and without doubt how good you feel about looking after your children.

I'm sure you will have noticed that when you're happy your children are happy too so for the next week make this a priority.

Write a list of all the things that you would like to do for yourself. What is the one thing you have been putting off? These can be simple things from calling a friend without being disturbed to booking a haircut, taking a bath or reading the magazine you bought a month ago.

Choose at least one thing that you are going to over the next week and actually write down when you are going to do it. Put down the date and the time when you are going to make this happen. If you need someone to look after the children for a few hours, call them now. Or at least firmly plan how you are going to ensure your time is your own.

Enjoy this time that you have created for yourself and you will be amazed at the results! Let me know how you get on.

Debbie Lewis is a specialist parent coach who regularly contributes on parenting issues to national and regional media including Channel 5's Trisha Goddard Show.

She has worked for over ten years with adults and children in a broad range of jobs including nanny and parenting consultant.

Debbie is professionally trained in parenting skills, child development and family assessment and a registered member of The Parenting and Education Support Forum, The General Social Care Council, an NLP Practitioner and accredited life coach.

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