Self-confidence is your assessment of your own self-worth. It plays a large part in determining your happiness through life. So how do you create confidence? Well here's a surprise - you take action! If you don't currently have much self-confidence, let's explore the options on how to cultivate this trait within your life.
NFL legend Roger Stauback (Cowboys Quarterback 1969-1979) said, "Confidence doesn't come out of nowhere. It's a result of something...hours and days and weeks and years of constant work and dedication." No, you don't have to dedicate your life to professional sports or be a super hero to have confidence. It's much easier than that. It just takes a decision that you find yourself worthy of deciding on which general direction you want to head towards in life (i.e. an overall goal), then following through with the steps it takes to have what you want. Goal setting is an important method of:
Deciding what is important to you to achieve in your life
Separating what is important for you from what is irrelevant
Allowing yourself to feel good by motivating yourself to achievement
Building your self-confidence based on measured achievement of goals
Your level of confidence is not fixed (meaning it can't be changed) nor will it magically appear at the end of your goal. Being true to yourself means knowing exactly what you want and coming up with a strategy, a plan of how to achieve it. But more than that, it means deciding to have fun while you are in the process of creating something new for yourself. Confidence comes from deciding which specific actions you will take today, following through on those actions, and then recognizing to yourself that you followed through. This means taking a little time at the end of the day to sit with yourself and feel good about your efforts. Nobel Peace Prize winner Albert Schweitzer suggests, "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful."
No one is forcing you to do something that is difficult (i.e. achieve the goal you've set for yourself). You alone decided you wanted to have something you didn't currently have. You alone decided you wanted to expand your life experience. Your goals are the vehicle through which you allow yourself to have what you want and feel really good in the process. Goals are a solo act. And you alone are the allower or disallower of what you want.
Every time you make a decision during the day, ask yourself this question, "Does this choice take me closer to, or further from my goal." If the answer is "closer to," then you've made a decision to allow yourself to be successful. Notice how that feels in your body. If the answer is "further from," notice how that feels. Decide what choice you can make to feel better, more alive, more expanded.
If you didn't make the daily choice to support yourself in having your goal, decide if you wish to develop a new potential solution to having what you want or re-evaluate what you want. If your goals no longer hold any attraction for you, then let them go. Goal setting should bring you pleasure, satisfaction and a sense of achievement.
Every time you allow yourself to take a step in the direction of what you want also take the time to celebrate and feel as good in your body as you possibly can. Otherwise, what's the point? Life is about how good you can allow yourself to feel from the inside out, and setting a goal is the process you go through to feel better and better inside your body as you recognize the power of your own self.
Lasting self-confidence comes when you eventually realize that you have the ability to get from where you are to wherever you want to go. You are the designer of your life. You alone hold the key to your success. Lasting self-confidence comes as you no longer choose fear and self-criticism as methods for motivation. Instead you come to realize it is your job to focus on what you want and create a fertile area for your desire to grow on.
Dr. Annette Colby, RD
Nutrition Therapist & Master Energy Healer
For free inspirational newsletter, articles & info visit: http://www.LovingMiracles.com
972.985.8750
"Opening Creative Portals to Success"
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 7,... Read More
The Internet is sometimes criticized (usually by parents who think... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of February 24,... Read More
I AM SO GRATEFUL for the time to smell the... Read More
Somebody said you have to love what you do, but... Read More
I'm writing to you with a completely shattered heart. I've... Read More
I have been a business owner for about a minute.... Read More
I find of particular interest in the Eastern Religions many... Read More
In this world we don't have to afraid to anybody... Read More
When my older son was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity... Read More
I was eight years old, over four decades ago and... Read More
How can we enjoy a better lifestyle?'Easy' I hear you... Read More
Every morning I excitedly get out of bed. Just a... Read More
Chances are you have seen some type of disturbance in... Read More
The secret power of positive thinkers is their faith. And... Read More
Everything was arranged: once the funeral was over, all were... Read More
Fulfilling your dreams will remain a mirage if you simply... Read More
Fear. What is it? Can you touch it? Can you... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 14,... Read More
What are the odds of someone doing extraordinary things if... Read More
People have a tendency of anticipating pending change on the... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of December 9,... Read More
It was 1:30 A.M. on Friday, December 6, 1991. Patrolman... Read More
I love to talk about Purposeful Living with others and... Read More
Lorenzo C. an inspiring young teenager who fell to the... Read More
You have just completed a major work project before the... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of August 12,... Read More
Have you ever thought? What inspires YOU? What is it... Read More
Your Spirit is continuously beaming communications to you. As long... Read More
All of us are resistant to change, whether it's in... Read More
In the popular movie, "Remember the Titans" most of us... Read More
In the philosophical teachings which form the foundation for the... Read More
1. Sit back and enjoy (or at least tolerate) the... Read More
Every morning when singer-songwriter Michael Alan looks into the mirror... Read More
When in 1996 a local Secondary School opened, the staff... Read More
We have all grown up in an age where exploration... Read More
My name is Chas Brothers. Many of you know me... Read More
I knew precisely what I wanted. I felt that success... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of February 2,... Read More
Recently I approached a traffic light where a man stood... Read More
Spend some time thinking about how good you have it.... Read More
"?beauty on your earth is a shadow of the beauty... Read More
Most of us, at one point or another, take a... Read More
The Thorns of Opportunity...What are you trying so hard to... Read More
"Yeah, though I walk through the valley of the shadow... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of November 11,... Read More
She was just over knee-high standing next to me in... Read More
As year 2004 winds up and professionals and corporate bodies... Read More
Here is the typical life ? typical, though not everybody... Read More
Thanks to Walt Disney's "The Lion King", children the world... Read More
"Happiness can be as elusive as a fluttering butterlfy but... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of May 26,... Read More
Safety is an interesting concept. When we think of safety... Read More
Today more than ever before, we are witnessing a crises... Read More
You don't have to excavate diamond mines or oil fields... Read More
DREAM IT, CREATE IT, BECOME ITIf you've been reading my... Read More
All you want is a little more.More money, more love,... Read More
I've always loved the awesome majesty of mountains. They are,... Read More
You Can Overcome panic attacks and anxiety! That is great... Read More
I wrote about my life and all that I have... Read More
Ever read a book that's changed your life? Most of... Read More
(Excerpted from the Jim Rohn Two Day Weekend event -... Read More
The Internet is sometimes criticized (usually by parents who think... Read More
When you fall, do you get right back up? Do... Read More
1. You can relax and enjoy your life more if... Read More
There once was a happy monkey wandering the jungle, eating... Read More
Inspirational |